Whale, Yotes, CBJ; Patlabor, Cardcaptor Sakura, Restaurant to Another World; Martha Wells, Tanya Huff, Sarah Rees Brenan; Chicken Paprika, Cottage Pie, Red Beans and Rice
Was there ever any hidden anticapitalist theme in cookie clicker like some big brain online said or did you just decide it's funny to have cookies replace all matter in the universe
I wish they taught a class on what being a normal human is like
Like, the normal amount of pain is zero. The normal amount of wishing you weren’t ever born is zero. Food isn’t supposed to itch or hurt*. Going numb (any time outside sitting in one position too long) isn’t normal. Passing out isn’t normal. Normal people take like 10-20 minutes to fall asleep, and sleep like 6-9 hours. You’re supposed to get one period a month, which is manageable with a few tampons or pads a day and lasts 3-6 days.
These are all things I had to find out later, like a moron.
(fibromyalgia, depression, allergies, cataplexy, narcolepsy, PCOS and endometriosis)
*spicy food is supposed to hurt?
Sneezing when you see bright light? Normal.
Sneezing hurting your ribs so bad it makes breathing hard? Not normal.
It’s normal to hear a fluttering in your ears when you yawn. It’s not normal for your ears to hurt so much your teeth hurt too.
It’s normal to sleep badly and wake up sore every now and then. It’s not normal to lay awake because pain is keeping you up.
It’s normal to be nervous to see a doctor. It’s not normal to put off care because of your anxitey
So many times I’ve realized something about my body is super messed up when I’m like “you know how when X, Y?” And all my friends are like…no. I don’t experience X.
A couple good additions from the notes:
(image description: screenshot of a reply to this post from fiddlysticks that says “Took me up until very recently to learn headaches aren’t supposed to feel heavy and fuzzy, make you extra sensitive to light and sound, be debilitating, and last about 3 days lol)
(image description: screenshot of a reply to this post from raw-squid that says “Also like period cramps arent supposed to literally wake you up, even with the strongest over the counter painkillers :) )
Some additions from my own experience:
-Crunchy foods like toast or pizza are apparently not supposed to cut up the inside of your mouth and make you bleed- that’s unusually fragile skin and might indicate a connective tissue disorder
-Wearing jeans or bulky jackets isn’t supposed to make you feel like you’re dying- that’s a sensory processing difference, more specifically tactile defensiveness
-Ribs are not supposed to dislocate when you laugh too hard (connective tissue disorder again)
-Waking up exhausted every single day isn’t supposed to happen- could be any number of underlying conditions
-Standing up is not supposed to cause your heart rate to skyrocket and you to get super dizzy- that’s dysautonomia, anemia, or something similar
-Constantly sitting like a pretzel as a teen or adult mean nothing, but if other people are baffled by how you’re comfortable in those positions, you might be hypermobile or neurodivergent or both!
-The normal amount of seeing double is almost none! And even if you’ve seen double your whole life, the eye doctor can still prescribe you glasses that fix it
-Have a few “floaters” in your vision is normal, having constant showers of them that interfere with your vision is not
Basically, just because everyone in your family experiences something doesn’t mean it’s normal, it might mean there’s something genetic going on and you should ask a “control group” friend
• Food isn’t supposed to make your mouth itch. That’s an allergy
• Coffee isn’t supposed to put you to sleep
• Your period is not supposed to be more painful than labor (found that out with child #2)
• Your friends do not hate you. Yes, even when they’re too busy to answer your text. That’s RSD
• 100 and 1000 are not the same number. Most people don’t transpose numbers regularly. Most people do not find Algebra easier than arithmetic because variables mean less numbers to accidentally mix up. That’s dyscalculia
• Lights in the distance should be round. If they stretch like stars have your eyes checked for astigmatism
Everyone always talked about halos and I didn’t realize until I saw a picture of normal vs astigmatism to realize how much it affects me. The points take up my whole field of vision, top to bottom.
most people cant hear the buzz/hum of large household appliances or lights being on, thats autism
if it takes you an hour or more to fall asleep on average thats probably either autism or adhd, but could be other stuff, if meds dont improve it go to a sleep specialist to see
some people simply do not have 24 hour circadian rhythms. if you find the time you are asleep vs awake every day slowly crawls forward until for some periods you are nocturnal and then after another while you are diurnal again, this is probably you
spicy food causes your mouth to be more sensitive to heat, so if youre feeling pain/discomfort thats not heat related while eating it youre probably allergic to something in the meal
if you find yourself wishing you could be a different gender you can just try that to see if you like it
most people can just do things. if you feel completely unable to do something even if you want/need to and have to trick yourself into it, thats executive dysfunction. could be adhd could be some other mental illness
if caffeine puts you to sleep thats also adhd
if you regularly completely forget the plots things you saw/read/played a year or more ago/have similar memory loss issues with other things in your life, that too is almost definitely adhd (but if your memory loss is more extensive there could be other factors too)
The normal odds of making it through any given meal without vomiting immediately afterwards are 100%.
If your sinuses are always partly blocked, whether or not there’s anything in there, it’s hayfever, even if it’s year round (@past me). And if your sinuses are always swollen, you’re more likely to have mucus blocking them too. You don’t necessarily have a cold.
Also, if you have year-round hayfever, go read up about Histamine Intolerance and Mast Cell Activation Syndrome. ESPECIALLY if you also have things like ME/CFS and fibromyalgia, because they seem to often be comorbid. The Swiss Interest Group for Histamine Intolerance (SIGHI) has info on their website, including the long list of other symptoms that can be caused by high histamine. Histamine is a signalling chemical, and annoyingly turns up pretty much everywhere in the body.
You might find changing your diet settles more than your hayfever. I found that my recent and inexplicable reflux suddenly stopped after I dropped my histamine levels. (Also the bioflavonoid quercetin was more effective at letting me breathe properly than every other over the counter antihistamine I’ve tried 🥲)
This is a chart that explains poop that is normal and poop that is not. It is not normal to bleed when you defecate, it is not normal to take more than a few minutes to move your bowels, it is not normal to defecate only once or twice a week. It is also not normal for stool to be primarily liquid, or to need to defecate more than a couple times a day. If you are experiencing abnormal defecation for a long period of time talk to your doctor about gastrointestinal issues like IBS, Crohn’s, and Celiac.
in continued adult fuckery, we got broadsided by an uninsured driver on friday night and our car was totaled…the sheer amount of paperwork and unreturned phone calls has already made me curse in front of my child who gleefully repeated it and now i am in bed stabbing wool and trying not to cry
I was being cancelled because apparently it was classist to put feathers on dinosaurs.
Both dream me and irl me were very confused.
it might have been a dream, but feathered dinosaurs being linked to an ideology isn’t that uncommon. Them being viewed as “leftist”, “woke” or “gay” has occured several times.
I collect these examples.
reblog if you like dinosaurs, are gay, or just really like feathers
Actually knowing how to bake and cook has to have had an insane learning curve back in the day. Imagine having to figure out how to cook meat at the right temperature for the exactly perfect time without thermometers or even clocks, just having to go “hmm, yeah, this is right” by just how hot the air in the oven feels to your hand and by the way the fire looks, and not only having to Just Know what thoroughly cooked meat feels like when you poke it with a stick or something, but also freaking remembering to check that thing at the right times while also doing other chores at the same time because ain’t no way you’re just going to sit there in front of the oven for 3-4 hours doing nothing while keeping an eye on the meat.
And then if you mess it up and the food’s ruined, someone’s going to beat your ass for it because now there’s going to be no supper for anybody, and you can’t just grab something else in five minutes.
I managed to successfully bake a blueberry pie yesterday, without screwing up any part of it, and I had a whole temperature-controlled electric oven that’ll go to exactly 200 degrees when the recipe says you need 200 degrees, remains there unsupervised and without my management, a timer on my phone to remind me to check how the oven’s doing, and 4/6 of my ingredients came pre-measured in their own packages and containers, the crust included.
I would have straight-up died if I had been born just like 150 years ago. Not necessarily out of anything directly happening to me, but by screwing things up that were important just enough times that the local community comes to an unanimous agreement that it cannot be considered a crime nor a sin to kill me.
Do Not Let HR do this to you. It is not illegal to talk about wages in the work place. I did and got a 12% raise!
True info. Now let me add something: The power of documentation. (I was a long time steward in a nurses union.)
Remember: The “‘E” in email stands for evidence.
That cuts both ways. Be careful what you put into an email. It never really goes away and can be used against you.
But can also be a powerful tool for workplace fairness.
Case 1: Your supervisor asks you to do something you know is either illegal or against company policy. A verbal request. If things go wrong, you can count on them denying that they ever told you to do that. You go back to your desk, or wherever and you send them an email: “I just want to make sure that I understood correctly that you want me to do xxxxx” Quite often, once they see it in writing, they will change their mind about having you do it. If not, you have documentation.
Case 2: You have a schedule you like, you’ve had that schedule for a while, it works for you. Your supervisor comes to you and says “We’re really short-handed now and I need you to change your schedule just for a month until we can get someone else hired. It’s just temporary and you can have your old schedule back after a month.” A month goes by and they forget entirely that they made that promise to you. So, once again, when they make the initial request, you send them an email “I’m happy to help out temporarily, but just want to make sure I understand correctly that I will get my old schedule back after a month as you promised.” Documentation.
[Image ID: Text reading: In the middle of a busy clinic at our practice, I got pulled in by my manager to speak to HR, who must have made a special trip because she lives several states away, and told I was being 'investigated’ for discussing wages with my other employees. She told me it was against company policy to discuss wages.
Me; That’s illegal.
Them: (start italics) three slow, long seconds of staring at me blankly (end italics) Uh…
Me: That’s an illegal policy to have. The right to discuss wages is a right protected by the National Labor Relations board. I used to be in a union. I know this.
HR: Oh, this is news to me! I have been working HR for 18 years and I never knew that. Haha. Well try not do do it anyway, it makes people upset, haha.
Me: people are entitled to their opinions about what their work is worth. Bye.
I then left, and sent her several texts and emails saying I would like a copy of their company policy to see where this wage discussion policy was kept. She quickly called me back in to her office.
HR: You know what, there is no policy like that in the handbook! I double check. Sorry about the confusion, my apologies.
Me: You still haven’t given me the paper saying that we had this discussion. I am going to need some protection against retaliation.
HR: Oh haha yes here you go.
I just received a paper with legal letterhead and an apology saying there was no verbal warning or write up. Don’t even take their shit you guys. Keep talking about wages. Know your worth. /End ID]
At one of my old (shit) jobs my boss would continually come have these verbal discussions with me and would never put anything in writing I took to summarizing every discussion we had in email. Like “just to confirm that you asked me to do X by Y date and you understand that means I won’t be able to complete the previous task you gave me until Z date - 2 weeks later than originally scheduled - because you want me to prioritize this new project.
The woman would then storm back into my office screaming at me for putting the discussion in writing and arguing about pushing back the other project or whatever. At which point I would summarize that conversation in email as well. Which would bring her storming back in, rinse and repeat ad nauseum.
Anyway I cannot imagine how badly that job would have gone if I hadn’t put all her wildly unreasonable demands in writing. Bitch still hated me but she could never hang me for “missing deadlines” because I always had in writing that she’d pushed the project back because she wanted something else done first.
Paper your asses babes. Do not let them get away with shit. If they won’t put what they’re asking you to do in writing then write it up yourself and email it to them.
If you don’t have this kind of job but someday you’d might: start practicing.
After a casual conversation with friends, write up a brief synopsis of what you discussed & agreed to. (…Do not email this to friends unless you have their agreement that this would be a fun group project.) Get practice with,
“A, B, and C had a brief meeting about food options after the big game. We decided on pizza, with A&B agreeing to contribute X dollars each, and C agreeing to contribute Y dollars and also bring soda. A will call for pizza on the day of the game and schedule it for delivery at 8:30 pm.”
“A, B & C discussed movie options. A wanted something lite and fun; B wanted something scifi; C was fine with anything but horror. Nobody wanted superheroes. Decided on Lost Space Wanderers which opened last weekend; C agreed to research theatre options and report tomorrow.”
…and so on. Practice describing the results of “meetings” with friends and you’ll be ready to sum up “boss told me to set aside Project A to focus on Project B for the next two weeks” - because what’s likely is that boss didn’t say anything that clear; boss talked about how important Project B is and how the company needs parts X and Y done asap and you have the best skills for that, and when you mentioned how much time Project A was taking, boss said “eh don’t worry about that right now; marketing is breathing down my neck so we really need part X by Friday, okay?”
…at no point did you get a direct instruction.
Which is why anyone who is not the screaming-drama boss mentioned above would think it was perfectly reasonable for you to say, “I want to clarify the discussion we had earlier - you told me to focus on Project B to the exclusion of Project A for the next two weeks, even if that means Project A will miss its deadline; is that correct?”
Genuine question: what do I do when the boss in question doesn’t reply to my confirmation email, then says that he never approved the project delay?
In person or over the phone you say “that doesn’t match with my memory of the project but let me check my records and I’ll get back to you about what happened on this project.” Then go back to your desk and write the pettiest email in the world.
To: Boss
From: you
Cc: work group, team lead, project partner, direct supervisor, etc.
(Depending on severity of problem) Bcc: your personal email
“Hi Boss, I’m trying to resolve some confusion here. After our conversation about priority projects on [date] I reached out to you for confirmation of these details (see attached outlook item) and didn’t receive an update to the timeline since that communication. I have been working from the agenda we discussed (summarized in attached outlook item from [date]) in absence of further direction. Do you have a copy of your response updating the changes or correcting mistakes in my summary? It’s possible that I didn’t see your email and I’d like to identify where a communication was missed so that we can avoid issues like this in future projects.
Best,
[Name]”
For this to work you have to be militant about sending summary emails and firm with coworkers and supervisors that you will be documenting project plans via email, but once they’re used to your MO it’s worth the work.
Reminder that if you think teenagers who like posting pretty pictures are a bigger problem in witchcraft than white supremacy and antisemitism, you need to work on your priorities.
Teenagers who enjoy witchy aesthetics are harming literally no one. White supremacists and antisemites are pushing fascism and genocide. We gotta put our focus and effort where it actually matters.
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